Of course everyone wants to be happy, but do you do what’s necessary to actually get there? Do you even know what happiness means to you? Happiness is one of those things that we all think of differently. What happiness is to one person may be the complete opposite of what it is to another and that’s okay. When you find out what it is that truly makes you happy, you will start feeling so great about yourself and your whole perspective will start to change. Life won’t be as hard, as sad, as boring because you have the power in your hands to change your reality.
One of the most important first steps to take is to make sure that you do not compare yourself to others. This is a hard one, especially for me. For example, I’m so guilty of getting caught up in not being as successful as someone else is that it’s really difficult for me to even stop and take the time to appreciate where I’m currently at. It’s definitely something I’m working on every day because, quite frankly, I want to appreciate where I started from and how far I’ve come along the way. I don’t want to be robbed of that happiness.
And you shouldn’t either. We all deserve to celebrate our victories, no matter how big or small they may be. After all, if we can’t learn to celebrate our small victories, how will we be able to handle the bigger ones?
Another thing that goes hand-in-hand with comparing yourself to others is when you care about what people think of you and your choices (assuming your choices are good, of course). When you live your life always wondering what so and so thinks of your choices, you aren’t living your life for yourself. You’re living it for someone else and this, as you can imagine, will not bring you any happiness. Who cares what other people think. You need to do what makes you happy instead of being clouded in judgement by what others think. Otherwise you’ll always be at a standstill in your life constantly.
It’s freeing when you can go about your day not worrying about what others think and not comparing yourself to them. When you can see clear and live your life for you, you will realize all of the amazing strengths you have. All of the qualities that make you an amazing person. The things that really make you sparkle and shine bright.
And you know what?
When you can do this, your confidence soars. And when your confidence soars, you feel like you can take on the world. You aren’t tainted by what people say or think about you. You know who you are and your self-esteem continues to skyrocket. You won’t let a comment from someone change how you view yourself because you know it to be false. You don’t even give it a second thought. You know your truth and you stand by your truth. It’s as clear as someone telling you that the sky is green. You know that the sky is blue, so you don’t worry about the sky being green. Instead you probably just look at that person like they are a little crazy… or maybe wonder if they are color-blind.
Another “side-effect” from being confident in who you are is that you will try anything because you aren’t scared of falling. You don’t focus on the “what ifs”; you think of the amazing things that could come from it instead.
“What if I fall?” “Oh, my darling, what if you fly?” –Unknown
At this point, your whole perspective has shifted and you want to try anything you can or do anything you want to try to make you happy. You are grateful for this shift in your thinking and being. You see the positives in so many things, instead of focusing on any of the negative. You’re willing to take risks that perhaps might have scared you before.
“Making a big life change is pretty scary. But, what’s even scarier? Regret.” -Unknown
There’s something really powerful about feeling in charge of your life. Feeling like success and happiness are at your fingertips. Feeling empowered to change your life for the better. Knowing that you deserve all the good the world has to offer.
Being happy, truly happy, doesn’t come from material goods. It doesn’t come from gossiping to your friends about other people. It doesn’t come from having a bad attitude. It doesn’t come from having a ton of money (although money does certainly make things easier, lol). You can be the most lonely and miserable person in the world while having millions in the bank.
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie
Happiness comes from the inside. From the things you focus on and think about. It comes from you finding your purpose in life and going after what you want. It comes from doing good in the world and trying your best to make it a better place. It comes from making every day that you have count. It comes from letting your family and friends know how much they mean to you. It comes from stepping away from your computer and playing with your children. It comes from living in the present and being your best self that you can be.
I’ll end this post with this final quote that sums everything up beautifully…
“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.” ― Audrey Hepburn