Why I Avoided Direct Sales For So Long

king of queens episode talking about multi-level marketingLast night I walked into the living room and “The King of Queens” was on TV even though no one was in the room. It was a stressful day, so I just wanted to sit on the couch and zone out. It was one of those days that we all have now and then. I didn’t bother to change the channel and just starting watching the show.

Apparently Doug’s friend that sold water filters talked Doug into joining a Network Marketing company. He just had to get 10 people to join him and sell the water filters. You know the story… There were obstacles that arose when talking to people. Doug and Carrie had a lot of water filters in stock at their house. They spent a ton of money to get involved. And on and on.

It got me thinking about why I avoided the Direct Selling Industry for so long. This particular episode of The King of Queens” aired in 2000, so this was a long time ago (which is crazy to believe). I think people are definitely more open to this industry now and it’s easier to share your business with others, but there still are challenges that arise, as with any business.

You’ve heard all the same horror stories that I’ve heard. You know that there are some shady companies out there that aren’t legit and that give this industry a bad name. You know that people are more guarded when you try to talk to them about your business opportunity. You might even know some people that do not do things on the up and up and conduct business in a way that you don’t support. While these are all normal things, these are the reasons that I’ve avoided the direct selling industry for so long.

And I can’t tell you how many times my husband has talked to me about a company in the past 11-years. I’ve shut every single one down because quite frankly, I didn’t want to bother my friends and family. I didn’t want people to see my number on their caller ID and not answer. I didn’t want to join a company that wasn’t going to make it. I didn’t want to deal with the jealousy and cattiness of other women. I didn’t want any part of it at all.

But you know my story and know that I’m involved in a direct sales company now. Funny how that works, right?

I just want to share some things that helped turn it all around for me to give me a better outlook on this industry. Who knows – maybe you are like how I was and you are thinking of joining a direct sales company, but there’s something or things that are holding you back.

Here’s a question for you: Are you a mom? Do you stay at home with your kid(s)? Is that all you’ve ever wanted to do?

son being sillyThat’s all I really ever wanted to do: Stay at home with my son and do fun things with him. (As in the photo to the right, which is one of about 20 pictures I took last night while our son would quickly change from outfit to outfit and pose for a picture!) I wanted to be his teacher in the world and share in his excitement of life. And to be honest, I was very content being a stay-at-home-mom until about October 2013. This was the first time I felt like I wanted to be more than “mommy” and that was a scary feeling. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a stay at home mom and I feel very blessed that we are in the financial position for me to do so, but at the same time, I had a feeling that I was supposed to do something else too. Like my purpose wasn’t only to be a stay at home mom. So while I knew that much, I didn’t know what to do.

At the time I was heavily involved in Reformer Pilates and I loved it (still do)! I remember talking to my mom and telling her that I wanted to get BASI certified and become a Pilates instructor. That was honestly the first time in my adult life that I wanted to do something other than being a mom. It gave me a feeling of excitement that I haven’t felt before. The only problem was that it was October and the next BASI certification wasn’t enough April 2014. The timing was off just a bit.

Another question for you: When you look at your Facebook newsfeed, what do you see? Is it tons of your friends complaining about life, their job, and their families? Let’s face it; Facebook is a time-waster for many people. And I guess, if you’re looking to waste time, it’s fine. But when you log off of Facebook, how do you feel?

Before joining this company, I would say that my Facebook newsfeed wasn’t so positive. Not that there was anything particularly bad, but it just didn’t leave me feeling good. I’m sure you’ve heard the quote by Jim Rohn. He says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Knowing that quote and seeing my Facebook newsfeed, I knew that something had to change. I didn’t want to surround myself with negativity. I’m a positive person and if anything is going to bring me down, I want it to be my own fault, not reading something on Facebook.

Since joining the direct selling company I’m now associated with, I’ve made a lot of new friends and my Facebook newsfeed is about 95% positive, happy, and empowering. It’s so much better now and makes me feel better as a person. When you are friends and work with like-minded people, it’s a really wonderful feeling. And I like having friends that are on the same page as me and want to be successful just like me. We mesh well and it’s great to have that support system in place. I’m in a very positive atmosphere and feel like I can take on anything in the world. I feel armed with the right kind of friends that make me feel good about myself. They push me to be better. They challenge me to improve where I need to improve and I do the same for them.

Finally, let me ask you…

  • Do you want a bigger, better life than being a stay at home mom or a working mom?
  • Do you want to help your husband pay the bills?
  • Do you want to travel more?
  • Do you want to have more money in the bank in case of an emergency?
  • Do you want your kid’s college fund to be well funded?
  • Do you want a beach house?
  • Do you want to donate your time to volunteer more?
  • Do you want to pay off your car?
  • Do you want another baby?
  • Do you want a vacation house?
  • Do you want to help foster animals that don’t have a home?
  • Do you want to help out your parents?
  • Do you want more time with your kids?
  • Do you want to make life just a little easier for a family member?
  • Do you want to feel fulfilled?
  • Do you want to be debt-free?
  • Do you want a pearl-colored Mercedes G63 AMG? (I do!)

What is your why? Mine are many of the above and more. What do you want out of your life? Have you taken the time to just dream about the life you want? I think when we become adults we get sucked into reality and focusing on our responsibilities and our dreams get pushed back further and further. Of course we have to live in the real world and be aware of our responsibilities, but who says that we have to give up on our dreams? Who says that we have to be stuck at a 9am to 5pm job with very little growth and only surviving to pay our bills? Who says that we have to do the same thing every day without trying to make it better?

Wake up and dream again. Let your mind go to what you want out of life. When I did this, I realized that I wouldn’t be able to live the life I wanted being a stay at home mom (unless I played the lottery, but I’ve only done that one time so my chances aren’t so great). Would getting a job be the answer? Of course not. Sure, there would be extra money, but would I get to work with amazing women and meet life-long friends that are like-minded? Probably not. Would I feel fulfilled going to work to make someone else rich every day? Absolutely not. I want to build my own success story, not someone else’s.

It’s all about timing.

And the timing came at the right moment for me. Something just clicked and I realized that I wanted to be more. Do more. Have more. All of the negative things that made me avoid Direct Sales in the past went away because I saw all of the positives that could come from it. (Of course, a lot of this comes from doing your work on the company, their policies, how they operate, etc.). It comes from seeking out a sponsor that you want to work with that can teach you what you need to know. It comes from being at the right place at the right time. It comes from being open to opportunities that come your way.

Since I joined this direct sales company, I honestly haven’t regretted a moment. I’ve made such great friends from it. I’ve learned so much about myself. I’ve started dreaming again. I am just an all-around happier person. I choose to focus on the positives and the good things in my life. When something less than desirable happens, it doesn’t get me down or break me. I turn it around, learn from it, and move on. It doesn’t impact me in the least because I don’t let it. I have my whys and am constantly working to make them my reality. I have a purpose. Most importantly, I’m a better mom and wife now.

And that truly makes my heart happy.

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